How would it be like being adopted by a relative?  Is there a whole lot of difference in adoption by relative and adoption by other people?  Can the adoptee feel the same loneliness in the adoption process?

Well, I guess the answers to these questions are subjective.  It depends upon the adoptee and the process of being separated from his birth family.   There are cases wherein relatives tend to agree among themselves in having this child stay with them.  So, child adoption takes place.  Adopting the child may be done by a casual talk.  There are also wherein a parent or a relative wants to legalize everything.  So, they may refer to an attorney and relevant papers are processed.   A written agreement will also work.

Why adopt from a relative?

Having a relative for good is beneficial in your part because you are able to help your relative who is in need.  The fact that they are putting the child under adoption makes it clear that they are having difficulty in taking care of the child.  One reason may be difficulty in raising him or in supporting his needs.  Another could be lack of time to have him.  Probably, nobody’s there to look after him.  This is the case for children whose parents are gone by accident resulting to death.

Adopting a child of the same blood is not too difficult.  The adoptive person doesn’t have to start their relationship from zero.  It may not be that hard for the child also, especially if they are close already.  It would indeed be favorable for the child because he’ll get to see his birth family often.  During family reunions, the whole clan would be there and the child doesn’t have to be reintroduced to another set of family.  He will still belong to the same clan and doesn’t have to adjust to whole lot new faces of relatives.

The adoptive family or parents knows the hereditarybackground of the adoptee.  They know what needs has to be attended, how to handle him, how he reacts, and other basic facts about the child.  The same is true with the child towards his stepparents. The adopted child is aware of the reactions, attitudes, and behavior of his foster family, which is actually his relatives.

The feeling of staying with a relative for good varies from one person to another.  Some adoptees may feel comfortable with their aunts, uncles, cousins, or grandparents.  They are so compatible that the adoptee prefers to be with them than their birth family.  Some of them may be so close with their biological family that choosing to be in their relative’s family is also hard.

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