a parent with the adopted children

An individual has three vocations namely, a married life, staying single, and entering the seminary.  Of the three, staying single can be considered as the most favorable vocation for adopting a child.

Most single individual, especially women, considers child adoption.   Children in their toddler or younger years are sought for adoption.
Here are some of the reasons on why single ladies prefer adoption:

1. While most women look forward to walking down the aisle, get married, and have family on their own, some prefer to stay single without a lifetime partner.  However, they want a child to have someone whom they can take care with and to whom they can express their motherly love.

2. Single individual want to have a companion in their life.  Someone has to be with them in the house.

3. Still, there are some women who feel the need of the needy children so they volunteer to have them as their own child.

Being a single adoptive parent has its advantages:

1. Even if you didn’t build a family of your own, you can still have someone to be with.

2. A single parent doesn’t have to consult a partner for her adoption decisions. She can decide about the adopted child’s gender, age, nationality, etc.  The decision is all up to that single individual.

3. A single parent can set her own rules for the child without the interference or objection from a partner.

4. She can have all the time and attention of the child.

Along with the advantages comes the drawbacks.  Here are some of the disadvantages in being a single parent:

1. She should shoulder all the expenses in bringing up the child.

2. She’ll solely deal with letting the child understand his present situation such as his being an adopted child, having only one parent without a father, etc.

3. She has to discipline the child all by herself.  Having a child makes a single parent an automatic disciplinarian.

4. She might encounter disapproval from her family or other relatives.

5. No one’s there to substitute her, in case she needs to get a break.

6. If ever she’ll decide to marry, she has to make sure that the child can be accepted by her partner.

All in all, it is a rewarding feeling to be a parent, regardless if the child is your own or not.  What matters most is that you treat the child like an angel from your own womb.  Being a single adoptive parent entails gargantuan obligations.  But, if a person is sincere in adopting the child, then she won’t feel sorry for herself even when faced with hardships in raising the child.

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