Being away from the ones true family or relatives is a sad experience one might undergo. Though an ideal foster family helps a child and is really a great blessing, we can’t neglect the fact that knowing where you came from is one of a person’s need. It may leave someone curious, feeling incomplete, confused, afraid, and feeling cheated or abandoned. Let me then cite some of the hardships an adopted child might go through. These are the following:
Attachment Disorder
This broad term pertains to the disorders of mood, behavior, and social relationships. This problem is said to originate from the child’s early problem in forming normal attachments from the people immediately around him, such as the nannies. So, as they grow old, they begin to have problematic social behaviors.
Child Abuse
An adopted child may be abused physically, sexually, or psychologically.
A physical abuse may include anything intentionally done to the child that caused or potentially cause him harm. A sexual abuse to a child happens when an adult does something like penetration, oral sex, and forced nudity. On the other hand, psychological abuse done to a child involves belittling or shaming him, inappropriate and/or extreme punishment, and the withholding of affection towards him.
Incestuous Relationship
Leaving the adoptee unaware of his status as an adoptee might lead him marrying someone who happens to be his close relative. This is such a disastrous way of finding out the truth.
Ignorance to Personal Historical Background
Our Social Studies teacher would often tell us that knowing the history of the our country and everything about it is a way of being a good citizen. Just as it is necessary to know the previous events of ones country and as well as the persons who played a significant role, so it is in knowing ones parents, relatives, and important matters pertaining to the family. It is a must for everybody, for the sake of ones completeness. The child may be from a family with serious ailments or health problems, such as cancer, high blood, etc. And knowing the child’s family background would truly help.
A good foster parent would care enough to assist his adoptee in facing, overcoming, or avoiding one of the said problems to happen.
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