birth parent vs. adoptive parent

Birth parents are the individuals who made the child.  The birth mother bore the child for nine months and risked her life when she gave birth to the baby.

Somewhere along the way, the birth parents considered adoption for some reasons like financial shortcomings.   So, the adoptive parents come in in the picture.  They are the individuals who volunteered to play the difficult role that should have been played by the birth parents.  They took care of the child, sent him to school, dressed him, provided him with nutritious foods, supported him financially, stood by him, and provided him the home he truly needs.

It seldom happens when a birth parent asks for the child back once the kid has already been adopted.  But, what if it happens?  How will the adopted child feel or react?  How about the adoptive parents?  Who should be chosen by the child?

This is again another tough circumstance to be faced by the child.  If the said adoption was legally done, as in with the presence of a lawyer, then the birth parent would just be up to barking against the adoptive individual.  A case like this is not encountered by adoptive parents who undergo legal proceedings, as in with the presence of a lawyer and all the papers needed to wit.   Suppose the said adoption was done verbally.  Adoption took place by mere talk and agreement via conversation.   Is it fair to the side of the adoptive parents to just take the child away from them?  They must have learned to love the child deeply.  They have set their minds and hearts of having the child as part of the family.   They are more or less used to having the child around.  Losing the adopted child might be like losing their own child.   The adoptive parents were there all along for the child, acting like a real parent and it wouldn’t be good to hurt them after all they’ve been through.

But, we can’t just ignore the birth parents.  They’ve been away from the child and that was indeed a sad thing to ever happen to them.  The real parents wants gain back the child.  All they want is to be given a chance to show him how much he means to them.

The primary in this scenario is the child, the adopted child.  How could they make him understand everything with less worry, confusion, and fear?   Does he really need to come up with a decision?  Will he ever think of a sound and fair decision?  When could he possibly make a choice between his adoptive parents and birth parents?  Does he really need to choose?

Most likely, adopted children chooses their adoptive parent because it was injected in their minds that the adoptive family is his home.  And a home is where an individual feels most comfortable.

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