A woman with an unplanned pregnancy has the option to pursue parenthood, go for adoption or end with abortion. This is not easy though, but you need to choose. You need to consider your options and make an informed choice. You may feel that one choice is best for you but think again, this decision is not easy and very confusing. You need time to contemplate about the situation and seek some advices from relatives, friends and to people with same experiences as this to enlighten your mind. The bottom line is that only you have the final right to choose which option is best for you.
Parenthood is a lifelong responsibility to be dealt with. It’s a non-ending journey together with your child. Starting from his first talk and first walk, as he enters kindergarten, then goes to highschool, first love, first kiss, first heartbreak, to his accomplishments, by his naughtyness, until he graduates college, earn a degree and get married. Being a parent, you must be at his side for support. Whatever support it might be, whether financial, emotional, spiritual, and all other things he needs as he grows, you must make it available as possible as you can. This is not an easy task most especially when you do parenting alone. Some women may not feel that they are not prepared to take on the responsibility of being pregnant and raising a child. Women feel that they do not want to or cannot take on these responsibilities.
If you don’t like experiencing pregnancy or raising up a child you may choose Abortion instead of Parenthood. Abortion ends your day as a preggy woman and cuts the life inside your womb. You may think that it’s a relief from all the burdens and pains you are feeling but think again, is this really the choice you want? Can you bare killing your own infant? Can you sleep at night without your conscience bothering you? Women faced with unwanted pregnancies have turned to abortion, regardless of religious or legal sanction and often at considerable risk.
Adoption is another option if you think abortion is not good for you and you think you are not prepared to enter parenthood. If you decide to continue your pregnancy but feel that you cannot raise a child at this time, you may be thinking about making an adoption plan. Adoption isn’t necessarily an easy decision either. It is one of the most complex emotional arrangements in which an individual can be involved. Yet, of the other options – aborting the pregnancy or raising the child– adoption may be the most child-centered. It can be a healthy, realistic, and sensible choice for all the parties involved in the adoption triad (birth parent, adoptive parent and adopted child). Adoption is a selfless, loving gesture from a brave woman who has dreams for a child to have a forever family.
The choice is yours and yours alone to make and live with. Well-meaning friends, family members and professionals can and should only offer support and guidance. The bottom line is that only you have the right to choose the option that is best for you. The final decision is yours.